
How to talk about the future with your adult child without it turning into a battle
Plan together without it turning into a battle.
This blueprint is meant for families with older teenagers or young adults still living at home.
The purpose of this blueprint is to explore how each member of your family feels about your current living situation and to learn how to openly communicate about the young adult’s plans for the future.
It will help you open communication between family members, explore misconceptions, and gain insight into what each member is feeling.
You will create a communication agreement to share updates and intentions while keeping the peace.
What’s so great about this program?
This program is a combination of an online course and a coaching program.
It teaches important concepts and then guides your family to put those concepts into practice. This way, you’ll experience real change as you progress through the program. You won’t just learn how to help your family; you’ll see results immediately.
This program is the culmination of a decade of research, learning from experts, and a ton of trial and error.
What are blueprints?
Blueprints are like self-paced coaching sessions, minus the awkward small talk.
Each one is designed to help you work through a specific problem or goal in one of the 12 key life areas. You’ll get step-by-step guidance, real-life examples, reflective questions, and practical tools like checklists, challenges, and workbooks, so you can stop spinning your wheels and start making real progress.
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Module 0: Welcome
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Module 1: Discover Your True Feelings
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Lesson 1.1: Describe how you feel right now
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How you are feeling about your family and living situation right now.
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Lesson 1.2 Events influence your feelings
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How feelings are influenced by events
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Lesson 1.3 Your thoughts influence your feelings
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How what you think, and how you think, can influence your feelings
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Lesson 1.4 Your belief systems influence your feelings
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
What belief systems are
How your belief systems influence your feelings
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Lesson 1.5 Having expectations can influence your feelings
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How having expectations can have a negative effect on your emotions
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Lesson 1.6 Being triggered can influence how you feel
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How being triggered by an event can influence your emotions
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Lesson 1.7 Making assumptions can influence your thoughts and feelings
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How making assumptions can negatively influence your thoughts and emotions
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Lesson 1.8 Describe what could be influencing your feelings
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
What events, experiences, expectations and assumptions may be influencing your feelings
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Lesson 1.9 Find the root cause of your emotions
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How to get to the root cause of what you’re feeling
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Lesson 1.10 Practice homework
This lesson is a homework assignment: Treating strong emotions with empathy.
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Lesson 1.11 Disarming fear
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
What scares you
How to express your fears in a healthy way
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Lesson 1.12 Can you do things differently?
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How you can do things differently moving forward
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Module 2: Understand how your feelings impact others
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Lesson 2.1: The power of vulnerability
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How to embrace vulnerability and why it’s important
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Lesson 2.2 Why people hide their feelings
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
Reasons people might be hiding how they are feeling
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Lesson 2.3 Potential benefits of sharing your thoughts and feelings
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How it might be helpful to share your thoughts and feelings with loved ones
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Lesson 2.4 Potential downside of sharing your thoughts and feelings
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
Bad things that might happen when you share your thoughts and feelings
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Lesson 2.5 Practice homework
This lesson is a homework assignment: I did a stupid thing.
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Module 3: Express your feelings respectfully
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Lesson 3.1 Communicate with Kindness
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How to communicate with kindness
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Lesson 3.2 Techniques for keeping the peace
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
Ways you can express your feelings with family members in a respectful way
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Lesson 3.3: Express how you feel
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How to express how you feel using the techniques in the previous lesson
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Module 4: Seek to understand other people's feelings
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Lesson: 4.1 Empathize with your family members
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
The importance of empathy when communicating with your family members
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Lesson 4.2 Read body language
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How body language is part of communication
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Lesson 4.3 Make sure you truly hear
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
A technique to make sure you understand what is being communicated to you
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Lesson 4.4 Practice homework
This lesson is a homework assignment: Listening journal.
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Module 5: Share Intentions
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Lesson 5.1: Switch your relationship
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How to change how you relate to each other
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Lesson 5.2 Practice homework
This lesson is a homework assignment: Exchange student and Foster family.
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Lesson 5.3 What happens with a lack of understanding?
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How people make assumptions when they don’t have enough information
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Lesson 5.4 What information should you share?
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
How much and what information should be shared among family members who live together
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Lesson 5.5 How to share your intentions with your family
In this lesson, you’ll explore:
What you absolutely must share with your family when you live together
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Risk-free guarantee
I know spending money on something you’re not sure is going to work is a scary thing to do. That’s why I’m offering a 14-day risk-free guarantee—so you can test drive this Blueprint with complete confidence.
Here’s how it works:
Dive into the Blueprint, explore the tools, and start following the program step by step. Try to get your family members to do it with you. It works best if the whole family does the work but can still help if you are the only one to do it.
If, within 14 days, you don’t feel like it’s helping, send me an email explaining why it wasn’t the right fit for you.
If it’s clear the program wasn’t a good match, I’ll happily issue you a full refund.
The best part? Even if you decide it’s not for you, you get to keep any tools you downloaded.
I believe so strongly in this Blueprint and its ability to transform the way your family communicates and thinks about the future that I want you to feel completely confident giving it a try.