Stop waiting for fun to find you
Tired of waiting for someone else to make life fun? Step up.
Is this for you?
You didn’t mean to stop having fun.
It just… happened.
Maybe life got full. Or serious. Or exhausting.
Maybe you’ve been the planner for so long that fun feels like another job.
Or maybe, if you’re honest, you’ve just been waiting for someone else to invite you back into it.
But here’s the thing: fun doesn’t chase you down. It waits for you to go first.
This page is your gentle wake-up call. We’re going to explore what’s been out of alignment, why fun matters more than you think, and how to stop waiting and start creating moments of joy, without forcing it, faking it, or needing anyone else’s permission.
Because fun isn’t a luxury. It’s fuel. And you get to have some.
This guide will help you:
Figure out why you’ve been waiting for others to create the fun
Reconnect with what actually feels joyful for you, not just what looks fun on paper
Explore where guilt, fatigue, or hesitation might be blocking your joy
Test out small, low-pressure ways to enjoy yourself again
Stop treating fun like a reward and start making it part of your real life
Build a routine of creating fun that feels sustainable, not one more thing to manage
Begin where you are.
Step 1: Reflect
Reflection activity
Use these questions to uncover what’s really going on underneath the surface:
What used to feel fun for you, but hasn’t made an appearance in a while?
How often do you rely on other people to plan or suggest fun?
When you get free time, how do you usually spend it? How do you wish you’ll spend it?
Is there any guilt, resistance, or self-judgment tied to doing things just for fun?
If fun felt simple, easy, and yours to create… what would you try first?
What’s out of alignment when you’re not having fun?
If life feels dull, draining, or flat, even if it’s “fine,” there’s a good chance the fun’s gone missing. And most of us don’t even notice it’s gone until we start asking better questions.
Common signs:
You keep waiting for someone else to make the plan
Free time gets swallowed by scrolling, chores, or fatigue
You feel a little guilty when you do things just for the joy of it
You can’t remember the last time you really laughed
Hobbies feel like work. Or… you don’t have any anymore
Fun isn’t just “nice to have.” It’s often the missing piece behind that vague feeling of being off.
Read these articles for inspiration.
Step 2: Take action
Bring fun back, on your terms
You don’t need a full plan. You don’t need a group chat.
You just need one moment of courage to say: “I’m allowed to enjoy this life, even if it’s messy.”
This isn’t about becoming the Fun Queen™ or booking ziplining lessons. It’s about building tiny, doable, regular moments of fun into the shape of your real life.
And having fun doesn’t have to be loud, social, or expensive. Sometimes it looks like blasting 90s music while doing dishes. Or walking a new trail. Or trying something weird on a Tuesday because it made you curious.
To do
Try this today (or this week, at your own pace):
The One-Person Invite
Don’t wait for someone else to suggest something fun. Instead, you make the move: Invite someone to do something light and low-pressure OR plan a solo “fun thing” just for yourself.
Examples:
“Hey, want to check out that local ice cream spot this weekend?”
“I’m going to the farmer’s market Saturday. Come if you’re free!”
“I’m taking myself to the park with a podcast and a coffee.”
Even if no one joins you, you still get the fun.
(And you prove to yourself that fun can come from you.)
Feeling disconnected or stuck in a routine? Learn why adults stop having fun, how it impacts your well-being, and simple ways to invite joy back into your life, starting now.